Hi Driver! Congratulations on your progress 🙂 and yes the social events are a killer! And believe me I am far from an expert in this area. I would suggest ordering a mock tail or an iced tea or something that can just be in your hand that you can sip from. Also, maybe put a window on how long you plan on staying and have your “leaving” rea…[Read more]

Hey NancyL and anyone else who has thought about attending a meeting but hasn’t had the courage to do so, I highly recommend it! If you come from a small town and are too embarrassed, maybe try an out of town meeting. AA is really great. It is a non judgmental environment and if you’re uncomfortable sharing, you can just listen. No one jud…[Read more]

Hi all! I apologize for the late reply. I know people have been curious of my whereabouts. Since my first post, I continued to drink and moderated some of the time. However one day (September 24th to be exact), I decided not to have a drink. Almost two and a half months went by and I did not have a drink. I know that’s not a lot of time c…[Read more]

Hi Suzanne,

My comments are not going to be super straight forward but here are some things to think about. Do you normally date guys who drink or are you making an exception for him? Can he have one or two to “relax”? Or does that typically turn into 7 or 8? If you don’t normally date guys who drink, maybe your gut is trying to tell you not…[Read more]

Thank you for the advice Suzanne. The anxiety I was having the past few days has dropped a bit. The party is tonight. I don’t feel as nervous as I did. I wish i could use the driving excuse but we have a hotel for the weekend. But I’ve been practicing how i will handle certain situations. I’m not even craving to drink, not even a little. I…[Read more]

Hi Katy,

I went to my first meeting las Friday and have been to 2 more since. I find them to be extremely helpful. I know what you mean by boredom. Saturday night I sat home and watched movies and thought to myself hmmm this feels weird doing this without wine. But I didn’t drink. I woke up Sunday bright and early, worked out and went to a…[Read more]

Jane – have you ever considered attending a meeting? I opened up to a sober friend of mine (the only sober friend I have, she’s going strong for over one year now). She asked me to go with her to a meeting and I must say it was truly amazing. The people were very warm, inviting, and completely non judgmental. You will see people from all walks of…[Read more]

Hi Suzanne,

Thank your for your reply and sharing your story. I appreciate your advice. I can’t believe what you went through. I hope you are in a better place now. Please keep motivating others to make the decision. Thanks again.

I appreciate your replies. I think the drinking is from boredom. My boyfriend and I live together and he works a lot, which makes him tired a lot. So him and I will sometimes both have a drink, he’ll go to bed super early and I’ll stay up in continue. Next thing you know, hours have passed and then the next day I feel depressed, I don’t want…[Read more]