While reading through a meeting the other day, someone’s share about hitting rock bottom piqued my interest. They had accepted it and they were grateful for it, happy to have finally ceased making the problem worse. For the longest time, I’ve considered my “rock bottom” to be a sort of monument to failure. Something that was, […]
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Belonging
“Until we had talked with complete candor of our conflicts, and had listened to someone else do the same thing, we still didn’t belong.” ~ TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 57 What a strange world. Never feeling like you’ve belonged anywhere until entering the four walls of A.A. Yet, inevitably, when the meeting ends, […]
I Will Destroy This Machine
“Resentment is the number one offender. It destroys more alcoholics than anything else.” (Big Book, pg. 64) I sometimes resent my resentments. I know what they are, I know that they’re mostly irrational, and I know they’re dangerous, but I have them from time to time all the same. I spend a lot of time, […]
On Gods and Dogs
I don’t think I’ve mentioned my best friend in this blog before. I’m sure you don’t know her. She doesn’t speak much English and doesn’t have any troubling addictions. She isn’t in recovery as we are, she hasn’t read the Big Book. She’s never attended a meeting, doesn’t know what they’re about, and probably wouldn’t […]
Everything Looks Like a Nail
I’ve dealt with depression, among other mental health issues, for most of my life. Having been in counseling since the age of seven, I’m fairly sure that my alcoholism and drug use weren’t the root cause of this, though they certainly contributed later in life, and they certainly made things worse. It seems that a […]
The Wisdom to Know the Difference
Like most middle-class, suburban Americans, I was raised on a healthy diet of exceptionalism. I believed, without a doubt, that my life had some greater meaning. I may have suffered humble beginnings, but I was certain that in the end, I was going to make it big. A rock star, perhaps? I was, probably, the […]
The Welcoming Committee
I’ve been at this for a long time. Not as long as many others, of course, but half of my life has been spent in these rooms. You wouldn’t know it from looking at me — well, you probably would, but let me have this — but I’ve put in more than twenty years attempting […]
That’s a Big “If”
“… and I’m an alcoholic.” It took me a long time to say those words, and even longer to mean it. I’m not sure if alcoholics are contrarian by nature, even if we are typecast as a rowdy, incorrigible bunch. Perhaps it’s something a little more specific to me. Having been raised with little to […]
Forever is a Long Time
Our membership ought to include all who suffer from alcoholism. Hence we may refuse none who wish to recover. Nor ought A.A. membership ever depend upon money or conformity. Any two or three alcoholics gathered together for sobriety may call themselves an A.A. group, provided that, as a group, they have no other affiliation. AA’s […]
It’s Time to Leave the Capsule if You Dare
I’ve always looked up to astronauts, even if I consider them to be brave and foolish in equal measure. They aren’t just tough — they’re smart, and courageous. They further the cause of science and advance the nature and purpose of the human race. They brought us Velcro, those pens that write upside-down, and that […]